Impulse Control

Published April 8, 2018

Self-contempt is often the starting point for the hatred of others. From there comes the dark forces of cynicism and cruelty.

This self-contempt is unhealthy and often results in self-destructive acts which can be cry’s for help, or expressed as terrible cruelty inflicted on others.

Seeing our own self-hatred and the internal anger that nurtures it, can help the searching sole desire another way to be. A turning point becomes possible in those moments, and we can see that we have the power of impulse control. We can see our impulse to judge, or condemn ourselves, but if we just watch it, then it fades away.

We may catch ourselves resenting the thoughtlessness or actions of someone, but if we release the impulse, let go of the urge to judge them, it fades. That’s impulse control. Each time we have the awareness and presence of mind to allow the emotionĀ  of self-contempt or condemnation of others to appear and then wither, without giving it our energy, we become stronger.

Patience develops. Patience with ourselves and patience with others emerges every time we refrain from giving our energy to resentment of self or others. Impulse control becomes an act of love because we stop hating!

Too many of our children today are over stimulated and over emotionalized. Their behavior is often justified by that of adults who are easily outraged and overreact to any slight, real or imagined! Young boys even more than girls, need to learnĀ impulse control, because they tend towards dangerous physical violence.

Young boys who discover the power behind impulse control can learn self-control. The path to manhood then becomes a journey of acquiring virtues that turn the boys into the men they wish they’d known as role models. Young girls, and eventually women, will respect and admire the noble traits that unite men and women in a quest for excellence and the flowering into patient and kind human beings. @WLIngramAuthor